When I was a kid I watched a young Ben Affleck on the TV show Voyage of the Mimi. It was an educational show and I learned about things like hypothermia and how to make a still for purifying water. In some vague sense I grew up with the actor following his fame.
There is a video clip from 2003’s Dinner for Five starring Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck. Though they were both in relationships with other people at the time, it seems there is clear chemistry between them. As I am watching the vintage clip of them now, I feel the energetic connection they have. It seems like a link between them that’s drawing them together even though they are going in different directions and not intended for each other at all.
They are superstars. It may seem like only they get to experience the melodrama of having an energetic connection or an emotional cord. Maybe this is more common than I thought? There are anecdotes of twins that can feel each other’s emotions even though they are miles apart.
There are strong bonds that drive moms to save their babies:
Why do we feel a certain way about someone else? Thinking about energy connections draws me back to my training as a yoga teacher. I can remember learning about the koshas in my classes. The energy sheaths that encase the soul are able to provide groundings for attachments.
Humans aren’t perfect, but this capacity for connection that ties us together with emotional cords is special. Our past experiences may serve as clues for our emotional connections. It might be something that needs to be healed so you can let go. For example, some cords might be toxic. How do we get rid of these?
There are some things that could be coincidences in our lives. There are pushes we can’t explain, but we can’t ignore them. How do we know we are meant to be a parent and/or a scuba diver? What makes us feel connected to going that direction? How do we know that we are supposed to pursue that and that’s right for us? Why is one partner more right for us than another one? I might argue we know because of energetic connections. Something pulls us toward a direction.
When some people leave my life, either through passing away or through voluntary ending of relationships. I have noticed there have been times when I still feel those peoples’ presence much later. I knew they were there. I think many people have told me similar things. Our friends and loved ones that have moved on to death haven’t really left, but instead have a different energetic connection with us than before.
I can remember a few years ago losing a friend to a heart attack in front of my eyes. I attempted to do CPR and he did not live. Months later, I still was missing him and blaming myself. I remember looking at pictures of him I had taken just moments before his death. Sadness and then depression came on for a while. At some point I was speaking with a family member and out loud I said, “Tim wouldn’t want me to be sad now.” The energy in the room changed immediately and I knew that Tim was there rooting for me. He wanted me to shake out of the depression and get better. I felt it almost as if he was shifting his feet balancing his stance. I could get better for Tim – shake off the depression – but not for myself. I felt like I needed Tim to forgive me.
There are some people to whom I have felt inextricably linked during my life as though we were foils of each other. For good or bad we were meant to meet, learn from and annoy each other. And sometimes, I still feel the presence of these people though they are not in my life, or are far away or no longer here. As far as I can tell, computers don’t have this. Sure, there are ports, there is the OSI model and TCP/IP but no connection.
In my town, we are having the Kentucky Derby this week. People are pouring into this sleepy town that has put its best dress on. Women are gussied up in their fascinators. The world is like one big party of happiness and sadness. I see we are all connected through energy finally. And just because you can’t see it, doesn’t mean it’s not there.
